Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Remaining Calm

Let's put this issue out there on the table before anything else-- I am not a naturally calm, serene person.

I'm hectic. I'm a worrier. I'm prone to overreacting.

I obsess about the little things.

At least, that's how I used to be.

That being said, I've managed to curb nearly ALL of those things in the past six months.

I can't be sure exactly what initially triggered me to change my behavior, but I'm so glad I did.

Life is far too short to spend your entire day worrying and obsessing over the little things that may or may not "go wrong". Of course we have to think ahead, but we also have to understand how to take one step at a time.

I think one of the strongest contributors to this behavior overhaul was when I began to recognize the same types of characteristics in other people around me.

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And I realized how incredibly obnoxious it can be.

So, I decided to change.

I looked closely at my behavior, as well as the triggers for my behavior, and began asking myself why I was reacting in a certain way and/or if the situation could be altered had I reacted differently.

And in doing so, I began to realize something.

Certain events in life will take place whether or not you worry or obsess or get angry about them.

And, more often than not, you cannot change the outcome by throwing a temper tantrum.

The best thing-- rather, the only thing-- you can do is wait out the storm.

If you miss your flight, another will come along. You'll get where you're going eventually.

If you get laid off from your job, you'll find another one. Maybe even a better one.

If the person you love doesn't love you, let it go. There are other fish in the sea.

Of course there are times where anger is warranted. It's only human to get upset and wish that things could always fall in the place the way we want them to.

But it is in the aftermath of anger where we stop resisting life's circumstances and learn to trust that fate knows better.
The universe has a way of working things out on its own terms.

By getting angry and cursing "luck" or "karma" for what we believe, at the time, to be misfortune, we are missing out on the bigger picture.

We aren't reading the signs.
When we throw up our hands in defeat and allow fate to carry us along, we will end up where we belong in due time. There's no point in fighting a force that is much larger than we are.

Once we give in to the ways of the world, we become blessed with a serenity and peace that few people know how to access.

So when you feel yourself welling up with anger or obsessing about the little details or cursing your circumstances, take a deep breath and let it go.

As the saying goes, "Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."

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