Friday, February 26, 2016

Life Lately

So it's just come to my attention that I really haven't posted much of anything so far this year. I'm going to try to change that, because I've loved having this blog and I hate to see myself neglect it. With that being said, I figured I'd give you guys a quick update on my life lately.
 
I'm still dating that great guy I mentioned earlier, Will. We spent last Saturday hiking at Umstead and then came back to my house and snuggled up to watch t.v. all day. Later that night we (he) cooked some steaks for dinner before he headed home (to Fayetteville, which is about an hour away). On Wednesday he drove up again and took me to the N.C. State v. UNC basketball game (a big game in these neck of the woods) and I was introduced to a couple of his golfing buddies. Tomorrow I'm going to drive down to Fayetteville for the first time to see his condo and to grab lunch at his Country Club. So far I'm having a great time with him, and he's super easy to talk to. If things keep going as well as they're going now, well.. I don't want to get ahead of myself just yet, but let's just say that this guy is looking like a keeper.
 
Luckily for me, my work has slowed down quite a bit this week, as two of my supervising attorneys are in Boston for a trial. In the months leading up to this trial, it's pretty obvious to say that we've been busy -- I've been stressed to the max with everything on my plate. Now that the trial is underway, I'm able to relax quite a bit more and enjoy the silence around the office until the Boston crew returns on Monday. I'll never again take for granted any "downtime" I have in this line of work.
 
I'm headed up to D.C. next Thursday to visit my friend Lauren from Ole Miss and to go see Pat Green play live. After all these years of being such a Pat Green fan, it's a little shocking that I'm just now seeing him in concert. Nonetheless, I'm really looking forward to seeing him at long last, and to spend some quality time with one of my best friends.
 
On a sad note, my grandmother Foxie has recently been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. She's always been larger to life in my eyes, and she's never been sick a day in her life, so it came as a somewhat great shock to me that she won't be around forever. Needless to say I haven't been handling the news all that well, so it's taken some time to get used to. Thankfully, this cancer seems to be relatively painless for her, and she's going about her days as though nothing is wrong. It's such a strange thing to me, to see my grandmother sick. She's been such a powerful all-consuming force throughout my life that I guess I just sort of assumed she'd always be around. Now I have to come to terms with the fact that her time here on earth has its limits. I'm just praying that her last days are free of pain and are filled with visits from the people Foxie loves the most. I've been spending a lot of time with her at her house in Henderson lately, and my dogs have grown to love their Gran. Beau is especially fond of the ice she feeds him from her drinks, and Scout just loves the hour-long car ride where she can act as co-pilot. 

Well, y'all, I guess that's it for now. I'll keep you guys updated in the future and hopefully will manage to carve out some time to start posting on here a little more regularly than I have been. I hope everything is going well with you guys! Happy Friday!

Monday, February 15, 2016

I Met A Guy

Happy Valentine's Day, y'all! Well, belated Valentine's Day at least. Hope everyone's doing well!

I'm writing because I wanted to let y'all know about the new guy I'm dating, Will. Yes, the one who sent me the Ole Miss tumbler after our first date. Well, we're still seeing each other, and he keeps proving time and again how incredibly thoughtful he is. He sent me flowers for my desk last Friday, and then showed up (with chocolates and daisies!) on Sunday afternoon to take me on a day trip down to Pinehurst for dinner at the infamous Pine Crest Inn. Consider me hooked.

To tell you the truth, I wasn't even expecting much on Valentine's Day, seeing as how the holiday fell on what was only our third date. So suffice it to say, I was happily surprised with how Will pulled out all the stops to make this Valentine's Day one of the greatest ones I've ever experienced.


It wasn't until I got home last night that I had a chance to read the card he'd given me along with the daisies and the chocolates.. and y'all, my heart just about skipped a beat. I know, I know, I'm not really a "heart skipping a beat" type of girl, but this guy brings out the hopeless romantic in me. I've never been treated so well by anyone. Aside from that, we have such a great time together! We're still both a little shy in these initial dating stages, so the silences tend to pop up from time to time. But we laugh.. a lot.  So let's just say things are looking promising. I'm sure I've said that before, but I've never felt so confident about where a relationship is going as I feel right now.


Turns out I'm one of the cheesy ones after all.


Thursday, February 4, 2016

The Good Ones (Are Still Out There)

Online dating can be a chore. Most of the time it's like having another full-time job. And the let-downs are commonplace. More often than not, my expectations of finding someone I'm interested in are appropriately low. Like I've mentioned before, I tend to turn the process into a game called "Where's the Red Flag?". Over time, I've gotten insanely good at picking up on small cues and hints that tell me I'm facing another dead end. My screening process has gotten more rigid, and I agree to far fewer dates than I used to.

If at one point in time I had convinced myself that being more open minded and willing to let small things "slide" was the way to go, I've veered to the polar opposite side of the spectrum these days. And I can attest to the fact that I'm notably happier with this way of dating. The let-downs I used to experience at every date in the past are noticeably less common. In fact, the last date I went on turned out to be a glowing success.

This guy actually sent me a gift (a personalized Ole Miss Tervis tumbler) in short order after a date last Saturday night. I'm still trying to figure out the logistics of how he managed to order and ship the package to me in the short amount of time he did. To say I was impressed would be putting it mildly. His gift was even better than flowers, because he put some thought and effort into it. I can't remember the last time anyone put this much thought and effort into a date, much less an after-date token of appreciation!

All in all, the good ones are out there, but they're difficult to find. Luckily for me I've developed the tools I need to actually recognize signs of the genuine guys who are looking for something more than a romp in the hay. I think sometimes it's better this way, because when you do come in contact with someone you connect with, you are able to appreciate the rarity of their character. And I'm finally at a place in my life where I know I deserve one of the good ones, and I refuse to settle for anything less.

Here's to the road less taken, and the guys worth waiting for.