Thursday, February 4, 2016

The Good Ones (Are Still Out There)

Online dating can be a chore. Most of the time it's like having another full-time job. And the let-downs are commonplace. More often than not, my expectations of finding someone I'm interested in are appropriately low. Like I've mentioned before, I tend to turn the process into a game called "Where's the Red Flag?". Over time, I've gotten insanely good at picking up on small cues and hints that tell me I'm facing another dead end. My screening process has gotten more rigid, and I agree to far fewer dates than I used to.

If at one point in time I had convinced myself that being more open minded and willing to let small things "slide" was the way to go, I've veered to the polar opposite side of the spectrum these days. And I can attest to the fact that I'm notably happier with this way of dating. The let-downs I used to experience at every date in the past are noticeably less common. In fact, the last date I went on turned out to be a glowing success.

This guy actually sent me a gift (a personalized Ole Miss Tervis tumbler) in short order after a date last Saturday night. I'm still trying to figure out the logistics of how he managed to order and ship the package to me in the short amount of time he did. To say I was impressed would be putting it mildly. His gift was even better than flowers, because he put some thought and effort into it. I can't remember the last time anyone put this much thought and effort into a date, much less an after-date token of appreciation!

All in all, the good ones are out there, but they're difficult to find. Luckily for me I've developed the tools I need to actually recognize signs of the genuine guys who are looking for something more than a romp in the hay. I think sometimes it's better this way, because when you do come in contact with someone you connect with, you are able to appreciate the rarity of their character. And I'm finally at a place in my life where I know I deserve one of the good ones, and I refuse to settle for anything less.

Here's to the road less taken, and the guys worth waiting for.

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